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We need more stories like this in the news!

A wonderful story that needs to be shared —

People helping People! 

Love it, Coach Lucy

A Boston Marathon good Samaritan has been identified, thanks to a grateful runner’s Facebook plea.

Laura Wellington, 25, of Cambridge, Massachusetts, was half a mile from the finish line when the bombs went off, promptly halting the race.

Police diverted her away from the finish line where her family and boyfriend, Bryan O’Neil, were planning to meet her. She panicked.

“Knowing that my family was at the finish line waiting for me, I started panicking, trying to call them. Diverted away from the finish line, I started walking down Mass Ave towards Symphony Hall still not knowing where my family was. Right before the intersection of Huntington, I was able to get in touch with Bryan and found out he was with my family and they were safe. I was just so happy to hear his voice that I sat down and started crying. Just couldn’t hold it back,” Wellington wrote.

As she wept, a marathon participant who had already completed the race passed by — and gave her his medal.

Wellington wrote about the kind man and his wife on Facebook.

“At that moment, a couple walking by stopped. The woman took the space tent off her husband, who had finished the marathon, and wrapped it around me. She asked me if I was okay, if I knew where my family was. I reassured her I knew where they were and I would be okay. The man then asked me if I finished to which I nodded ‘no.’ He then proceeded to take the medal off from around his neck and placed it around mine. He told me, ‘You are a finisher in my eyes.’ I was barely able to choke out a ‘thank you’ between my tears.”

She ended her post with gratefulness:

“Odds are I will never see this couple again, but I’m reaching out with the slim chance that I will be able to express to them just what this gesture meant to me. I was so in need of a familiar face at that point in time. This couple reassured me that even though such a terrible thing had happened, everything was going to be okay.”

Her post went viral.

Soon Wellington had a name: Brent Cunningham.

When the Sitka, Alaska, man learned Wellington was looking for him — his daughter, Kailee, recognized the story on Facebook and immediately identified her parents — he contacted her over Facebook.

“This is the craziest story,” Cunningham, regional director of Alaska Young Life, told the Toronto Star by telephone. “I never thought we’d connect again. Why would we? How would we?”

“I just wanted to let her know she was amazing. I said, ‘You’re a finisher in my eyes.’ That was that,” Cunningham added. “She was so emotional she couldn’t talk. And I’ve been emotional about it at least five times since then.”

Of his generous gift, Cunningham insists he has no regrets about giving away his medal.

“She needed it more than I needed it. I just wanted her to know that ‘you’re worth it.’ With everything that has happened, our world is looking for hope. My whole life is about loving God and loving others. That’s who I am.”

He told Channel 2 that in times of crisis, it’s important to seek out moments of shared humanity.

“It’s my way to care for someone,” Cunningham said. “I didn’t know the families who went through the great trauma they’ve been through, but I guess it’s just a great reminder to know where you’re at today: you can love someone in your own world.”

Fill Your Own Shoes First

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The beauty of SERVE is inescapable simplicity and actionable clarity.

Ken Blanchard and Mark Miller capture, “The Secret,” of leadership in five letters, SERVE.

Serve

See the future: envision and communicate a compelling picture of a preferred future.

  1. What do I want to be true of the future?
  2. Why should anyone care?
  3. How will progress be measured?

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Engage and develop others: recruit and align people for the right job. Create environments where people bring vision to life.

  1. What invited my engagement in the past?
  2. Which of these factors are missing in those I lead?
  3. How can I help teams and individuals grow?

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Reinvent continuously: continuously focus on improvement.

  1. How do I need to change?
  2. Where do I want different outcomes?
  3. What organizational changes will accelerate progress?

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Value results and relationships: generate measurable results and cultivate great relationships.

  1. Which is my personal bias as a leader – results or relationships?
  2. How can I compensate for the area that’s not my personal strength?
  3. What happens if I don’t broaden my definition of success?

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Embody values: live fully aligned with stated values.

  1. What values do I want to drive behaviors in my organization?
  2. How can I communicate these values?
  3. What are my actions communicating?

Be Thankful ~

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“Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,

If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something

For it gives you the opportunity to learn.

 

Be thankful for the difficult times.

During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations

Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge

Because it will build your strength and character.

 

Be thankful for your mistakes

They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary

Because it means you’ve made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things.

A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are

also thankful for the setbacks.

 

GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.

Find a way to be thankful for your troubles

and they can become your blessings.”  Author Unknown

Input = Output Coach Smith on the horrific shootings in Conn.

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The article below was written by Linfield College Head Football Coach Joe Smith.  He sent it to his players after the horrific school shooting in Connecticut.  

I liked what he said and how he said it.  I wanted to share with you.  My apologies for the distorted format, the copy/paste layout failed to give me a clean copy.  However, the message is clearly powerful.  

TCOY!

Coach Lucy

 

 Gentlemen,

I write to you today with a heavy heart.  I feel I would be remiss as your coach if I did not address this as a team, and give you whatever grain of wisdom and perspective I can.  Forgive me if I am not well spoken in this, this really has impacted so many of us.

I am not saying I have all the answers by any means, but this is just my honest opinion to you because I care so deeply about this Country, this State, and this Program.  I believe we can do something about this.  I know it is long, but I ask you sit somewhere quiet and please think on this deeply.

What happened twice last week in America was shocking.  This is not the Middle East, or war torn Eastern Europe, but rather our own countrymen killing you and I, our sisters, our mothers, our children.  A line was crossed on Friday in Connecticut that I never dreamed someone or something could cross; the purposeful execution of 1st graders.

Why did this happen?  How could this happen?

How do we fix it?  Our President says “this must not happen again”.  How do we bring that about?  Somehow as a people we must find a way.

If we do not understand the cause, we cannot prevent it.  Band aids will not cure the infection.

What is the cause?  The bottom hard fact is that we have many messed up young men in this world.  You can call them mentally ill, or whatever label you want.  But the facts are that we as a society are failing the young men and women your age in this country.

We as adults have allowed our youth to grow up in a culture that ill prepares them for the world they encounter when they leave the home.  We as adults in America have flat failed our children.  Why?  Because we are lazy.  We take the easy way, the easy road well worn by blind masses that do things and allow things without stopping to think what the long term affects could be.

INPUT equals OUTPUT.  Never has that been more accurate.

We do not allow smoking confined areas because science has shown 2nd hand smoke can lead to cancer.  Well, that same science has proven beyond ANY shadow of a doubt that violent movies, pornographic material, and violent video games DIRECTLY lead to increase violence toward women and others.  It is a fact.

How can this evil act occur in our country you ask?  I say it is because we allowed it to grow.

What is the answer for prevention?  Is it Gun Control?  Is it more mental health workers for teens?

I say they are Band Aids, and will not fix the problem.  Look at China and the knife attack that just occurred there in cutting 22 children.

The problem is our Culture . We don’t like the output, so the problem is the input.

The fabric of our Society is crumbling before our very eyes.  You may not see it, as you know nothing different.  Talk to your grandparents who have seen 3-4 generations pass.  Look at the sadness in their eyes. They know better.

I say we have a problem when I go to pre-game meeting in Graf 101 and see 25 teammates sitting down against a wall having their own virtual conversations on their phones!  I say we have a problem when you walk across campus and no one looks you in the eye, rather they look at their phone.  For some it is their only friend in the world.  You know what speaks to my children at home for discipline?  Take their phone away.

I worry that young men of your age do not know the difference between a virtual relationship or a virtual experience and reality.  In fact, for most young men their video game experience is much more intriguing and interesting than their real life.  If left to themselves, why would they not spend more time in a cool virtual environment than a lonely boring real one?  You see the movie Wall-E?

The adult male brain is not fully developed for most until around 20 years of age, so why would we fill it with so much adult information so early?  There is no question we allow our children to grow up too
fast with information they are not developmentally ready for.  We have a 21 year age minimum for alcohol consumption for the same reason.

We know it is not healthy for you, as you can’t  physically process it.  My wife has fought the virtual war in our household tooth and nail with our children.  She has been made by them to seem outdated, ill informed, uncaring etc… You know what?  She has been right on. There is no question in my mind.

Even as an adult, the extent of the trash we fill our minds with is staggering.  Why would we willingly fill our minds with poison?  Do you really believe you are immune to its affects?  I believe you are just
as vulnerable as I.

Besides the isolation we have created in our society, and growing our kids up too fast, I believe fathers have flat dropped the ball with their children.  Any man that is not actively involved parenting his own children is not a man in my eyes.  He is a selfish individual that is leaving his heavy lifting for others to do.  Period.

Parenting takes two parents; it is way too hard to do the job by yourself.  Most likely the kids would have won that virtual world power struggle in our household if there was only one parent there.  No parent can meet all of child’s needs by his or herself, and sad fact is too many women are shouldering this heavy burden alone in our country.  Where are our men?

Every evil young man that committed an act such as this; had a Dad that dropped the ball.  These dads were not directly involved shaping their sons’ lives, making sure they had the tools the needed to be successful in life.  Their selfish decisions, (I don’t care what the reason was, they were not there) lead to other’s lives being lost.  We can sugar coat it any way we choose, but that is a fact.

So, politicians are going to point to the band aids, but I want each of you to examine the society you belong to, and find ways to make a difference in those around you.  “To whom much is given, much is expected” that means you and me.  Put your phone down a little more, turn off that screen more often, and engage those around you.  Create

meaningful relationships and give of yourself a little more.  Try watching uplifting shows more often, or reading material that is positive and possibly inspiring.

When you become a father someday, do not take the easy path of putting job and convenience above what is best for your children.  They are your responsibility, and they do not know what is good for them, yet.  You are the parent, they are the child.  If you can’t make that kind of commitment, then don’t have kids.  Get a dog.

You are the future leaders of our society and your generation will shape our country sooner rather than later.

My heart breaks for the families burying their children today.  My heart aches for the parents who have presents under a tree for children who will never open those presents.  I can’t begin to understand the grief they are experiencing.  Tears ran freely down my face when I read of principal Dawn Hochsprung and Mary Sherlack giving their lives in the attempt to prevent the killer from murdering the students in their charge.

And then you read about 1st grade teacher Vicki Soto.  A young woman who in one terrible moment faced pure evil eye to eye and chose to literally shield her young students from the bullets with her own body, allowing some to escape and live.  What heroes those women are to me.

These acts of bravery are what I want to remember.

All of us will be weighed and measured when we are called upon to act in many differing levels of extreme adversity our lifetimes.

Dr. King said, “The ultimate measure of man is not where he stands in moment of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of crisis and adversity”.

Phillip Brooks said “character may be manifested in moments of greatness, but it is made in the small ones.”

I believe they are both right.

Every day, every minute we are building our character.  The moments of crisis in our lives will allow others to see the man inside us, but that man is being built every day by the choices we make and how we spend our time and energy, and the input we allow into minds.

“All that is necessary for evil to triumph, is for good men to do nothing.”

It is time for my generation, and the one before me, to step up and start doing something about this.  It is time for your generation to take notice of our mistake, and take steps to not repeat it.

Coach Smith

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2012 – The 4th Annual Tweak the Treat – VIDEO!

Take a moment and view the 2012 Video.  This is a Post Halloween Event focusing on total wellness:  Head, Heart and Body.  Created by Lucy DelSarto.

As a wellness ambassador and coach, my passion is to help others improve their quality of life. My TCOY (Take Care of You) Wellness philosophy is to address the whole person for well-being.

I wanted to inspire others and create an event to bring families together, get people physically active and show our gratitude to our US Troops.

The Sunday following Halloween, kids and adults bring in their excessive treats, fun activities and guest passes are provided; participants then write notes to be included in the care-packages sent overseas to our troops.

The event continues to grow every year.  Check out past year video’s on YouTube under “Tweak the Treat”…and share with others.

Coach Lucy

If you would like to know more,

  • contact Lucy DelSarto, lucy@tcoywellness.com. 
  • Visit:  http://www.tcoywellness.com
  • please LIKE our fanpage on Facebook “www.facebook.com/tweakthetreat”.

A very special thanks to our sponsors: 

TCOY Wellness, Durrie Vision, AppleTree Dentistry, Klein Orthodontics, Tiger Rock Karate – Olathe, The Studio 56 / Diana & Randy Foster; Rosco Halsey of Edward Jones; Prairie Life Fitness -Olathe, Dr. Cindy Taylor, DVM – Quivira Crossing Vet Clinic, Dr. Michael Flanery – Flanery Chiropractor, Carol Miner – Balloon Garden, Mannatech, Monkey Bizness – Olathe, Little Monkey Bizness – Shawnee, Bethany Spilde – Social Buzz Media, Title Boxing – Olathe, Cosmic Golf, Kosama – Overland Park, Jennifer Shelton Yoga, St. Andrews Golf Course and Jason’s Deli – Olathe.

  • Army Representative:  BJ Longston
  • Video created by:  Shea DelSarto
  • Song:  Good To Be Alive by Jason Gray
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Are You Guilty of “Goal Vaulting” In Life?

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Are You Guilty of “Goal Vaulting” In Life?

Decades ago I heard the term “goal vaulting”. It was a real eye opener about the way I was reacting with my personal competitions and in some areas of my life.  Awareness is the first step in change and I’m happy to have learned this lesson sooner rather than later in life.  Allow me to explain the concept and how it may be impacting your life too.

As a competitive athlete I am very determined, disciplined and committed.  Any strength can become a weakness if not balanced. My desire to be a professional athlete meant daily training and competing in two or three tournaments every month. I put a tremendous amount of pressure and demands on myself during my highly competitive years.

Granted, I had numerous sponsors and the prize money was only given to first and second place finishers but, there’s more to competing than winning or losing.  The mental aspect is as important as the physical.  I was “goal vaulting” my performances.  I would train and focus on competing in a specific tournament, play well, and even win. However, while driving home I was already diminishing my victory and thinking about my next tournament.

Goal vaulting is jumping from one goal into the next goal without taking time to acknowledge and celebrate your efforts and achievement.  As you can imagine, this can create burnout and other challenges.

Have you ever had a project in school, at work or at home that involved an intense amount of time and effort to complete?  Once finished, did you immediately immerse yourself in another project or did you take some time to reward yourself for all your hard work?  This can even apply in relationships; parents often fail to realize the effects of their influence until after their child becomes an adult.

Sadly, I feel today’s society focuses far too much on just the end results, pushing many to the brink of exhaustion striving for constant perfection.  Therein lies the misconception, perfection is short lived, if obtained at all.  Life is not about perfection nor the destination; it is about the journey and what happens along the way.

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One of my all-time favorite books, which later became a movie, is The Peaceful Warrior, by Dan Millman.  The story contains great insight and wisdom and, because it made a profound impact on me, I highly recommend it to others. Live in the present moment not in the past or the future.  Enjoy the journey, be happy and find the joy in life.

My competitiveness is still alive and well but my focus is on striving to be the best I can every day in every situation, on and off the court.  We can only control our efforts, not the outcome. Worrying is negative goal setting for the future and fear-based.  Let go of the past and spend time focusing on the present, in faith.

Our greatest fear isCLICK HERE (this is true for everyone)!

January is, for many, a time to set goals with the start of the new year.  My advice is: focus on your WHY.  Knowing “why” attaches emotion to the goal and this internal motivator will inspire you when the external factors begin to press down on you.

It is never too late to be what you want to be.  Every day provides new opportunities.

Interested in learning more about my personal wellness coaching, company wellness program or learn more about my speaking engagements?  Contact me ~ Video Business Card.    Confidence comes in DOING…so let’s DO WELLNESS together.  Until next month…TCOY

Coach Lucy

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3 Tips during Holiday Season

Don’t Halt During the Holiday Season.

Like the last two minutes of an intense football game, the year end can be difficult to keep up with as there typically seems to be less time and more things to do. Schedules and routines are often lost in the hustle and bustle of the season.  But take heart and allow me to share some simple tips that can make the next month and beyond more rewarding emotionally and physically.

  1. ACTION REQUIRED – Keep Moving! While getting to the health club or workout in during the holidays, you can still find time for movement by thinking ahead and making a plan. Everyone feels better after having worked out as it releases tension, stress and is great for your overall health. Keep things simple, and consider a more basic routine, the key is doing something. Consider using some of your family time to take a walk after dinner and the family dog would love this too!  Going up and down…do some step workouts. Stretching is another easy to do wherever you are activity. For strength training, take 5-10 minutes and do some quick lunges, squats and push-ups, or take the stairs rather than the elevator. If you are used to a full exercise schedule, it’s ok to reduce the amount of activity, but you won’t want to start off the New Year feeling out of shape, carrying extra pounds and sore muscles.  Be sure and keep hydrated with H2O!!
  2. SHOULDERS & HEAD BACK…Posture. Whether you are waiting in line at the  store, watching a movie or working on the computer, take note of you posture.  Are you slouching?  This not only is bad for you back but impacts your breathing too.  Be kind to your spine and it will support you well.  Make a pack with family and friends to hold each other accountable, it’s easy to do, easy not to do.
  3. TAKE FIVE – Refocus and remember, this too shall pass (good or bad). We often fail to realize that stress is primarily self-induced.  How we react to things is in our control.  Granted, hormones play a significant role, but we are wise when we can take five and step away from the intensity to regroup and center ourselves again.  Let go and breathe (through your nose): Take five deep breaths, inhale for five, exhale for five and repeat five times.  Empty your mind.

Perhaps most important of all, try to focus on what you have not what you don’t have. Spend time with friends and family, or maybe just some extra time alone. Personally, I believe it’s a wonderful time to slow down and reflect on priorities.  Remember, there is always someone worse off and when you see someone without a smile, give them yours.

Be mindful…Life is a journey not a destination.  Take a moment to watch this inspiring video of people practicing random acts of kindness and love.

Happy Thanksgiving and may the holiday season be a blessing to you and your family.

Coach Lucy

Post Event – 4th Annual Tweak the Treat

It’s the habit, not the plan, that makes all the difference; action is required.  TCOY = Take Care of You    Coach Lucy

Thank you all for sharing in my vision…

In 2009, I set out to create a family event focused on Total Wellness (head, heart and body).  By changing the way we THINK (head), giving/ sharing with our troops (heart) and getting physically active (body)…we will be healthier and happier!  It’s working too; the event not only has regular attendees but each year it continues to grow and impact more lives.

Imagine the JOY on  the troops faces when they receive the care-packages with treats and cards of appreciation just days before Thanksgiving!  Holidays can be tough on anyone but being thousands of miles away from home and loved ones makes it even more challenging.  Yes, lives are being touched in a beautiful way here and abroad.

Mirroring:  Things CAUGHT rather than TAUGHT.  Children watch and respond to what they see.  A returning family approached me and told me while they were out “trick or treating” with their daughter, she turned to them and said, “Look at all this candy I’m going to be able to share with the troop!”   How priceless is that!!!

During the event, kids are given the opportunity to have their faces painted by the talented Carol Miner of Balloon Garden.  Also, they get active by going into to the KIDS GYM to play on the climbing wall and other fun activities.  In addition, local sponsors provide family fun activities  to participate in later.

A special  THANK  YOU to Specialist William Longston, Army, who represented our Military at the 4th Annual Tweak the Treat event on Sunday, Nov. 4th.  This young man is a graduate from Olathe North and told me “I love being able to serve our country!”  His passion is obvious and we are blessed as a nation to have wonderful soldiers such as BJ.

Keep our troops in your prayers.  Also, help me in thanking the sponsors who donated…

Sponsors:

TCOY Wellness, Durrie Vision, Klein Orthodontics, Appletree Cosmetic & Family Dentistry, Dr. Cindy Taylor owner of Quivira Crossing Vet Clinic, Dr. Michael Flanery DC, Diana & Randy Foster – The Studio 56,  Team Mannatech, Rosco Halsey – Edward Jones, Prairie Life Fitness,  Tiger Rock Karate – Olathe,  Carol Miner – Artist  at Balloon Garden (face-painting), Bethany Spilde – Social Buzz Media, Monkey Bizness & Little Monkey Bizness, St. Andrews Golf,  Title Boxing,  Cosmic Golf, Kosama, Planet Beach Contempo Spa, Jennifer Shelton Yoga along with numerous friends who stepped up to help make this a truly awesome and memorable event.

Valley Park Elementary joined in the efforts too and has been collecting candy all week long…a lot of candy too!

Thank you one and all!  Video coming in December. I want to include pictures of the TROOPS opening up and enjoying the care-packages.

To learn more about the event:

http://overlandpark.macaronikid.com/article/379897/4th-annual-tweak-the-treat

“LIKE” the fan pages – http://www.facebook.com/tweakthetreat

“It is the soldier,not the reporter who has given us freedom of the press. It is the soldier, not the poet, who has given us freedom of speech. It is the soldier, not the organizer, who gave us freedom to demonstrate. It is the soldier who salutes the flag, who serves beneath the flag. And who coffin is draped by the flag, who allows protester to burn the flag.”   Unknown

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