Are You Guilty of “Goal Vaulting” In Life?
Decades ago I heard the term “goal vaulting”. It was a real eye opener about the way I was reacting with my personal competitions and in some areas of my life. Awareness is the first step in change and I’m happy to have learned this lesson sooner rather than later in life. Allow me to explain the concept and how it may be impacting your life too.
As a competitive athlete I am very determined, disciplined and committed. Any strength can become a weakness if not balanced. My desire to be a professional athlete meant daily training and competing in two or three tournaments every month. I put a tremendous amount of pressure and demands on myself during my highly competitive years.
Granted, I had numerous sponsors and the prize money was only given to first and second place finishers but, there’s more to competing than winning or losing. The mental aspect is as important as the physical. I was “goal vaulting” my performances. I would train and focus on competing in a specific tournament, play well, and even win. However, while driving home I was already diminishing my victory and thinking about my next tournament.
Goal vaulting is jumping from one goal into the next goal without taking time to acknowledge and celebrate your efforts and achievement. As you can imagine, this can create burnout and other challenges.
Have you ever had a project in school, at work or at home that involved an intense amount of time and effort to complete? Once finished, did you immediately immerse yourself in another project or did you take some time to reward yourself for all your hard work? This can even apply in relationships; parents often fail to realize the effects of their influence until after their child becomes an adult.
Sadly, I feel today’s society focuses far too much on just the end results, pushing many to the brink of exhaustion striving for constant perfection. Therein lies the misconception, perfection is short lived, if obtained at all. Life is not about perfection nor the destination; it is about the journey and what happens along the way.
One of my all-time favorite books, which later became a movie, is The Peaceful Warrior, by Dan Millman. The story contains great insight and wisdom and, because it made a profound impact on me, I highly recommend it to others. Live in the present moment not in the past or the future. Enjoy the journey, be happy and find the joy in life.
My competitiveness is still alive and well but my focus is on striving to be the best I can every day in every situation, on and off the court. We can only control our efforts, not the outcome. Worrying is negative goal setting for the future and fear-based. Let go of the past and spend time focusing on the present, in faith.
Our greatest fear is … CLICK HERE (this is true for everyone)!
January is, for many, a time to set goals with the start of the new year. My advice is: focus on your WHY. Knowing “why” attaches emotion to the goal and this internal motivator will inspire you when the external factors begin to press down on you.
It is never too late to be what you want to be. Every day provides new opportunities.
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