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The Spirit of the Two Wolves

Every day we all hear two voices from within struggling to win our attention.  Which one wins?  The one you feed. 

Take a moment and enjoy this two-minute audio of the story a grandfather tells his curious grandson. 

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TCOY = Take Care of You!

~ LIVE WELL BY CHOOSING TO  FEEDING THE RIGHT WOLF ~

 

The Aging Mirror

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The Gray Mirror

According to Ideo, studies have shown that when confronted with artificially aged photographs of themselves, young people are more willing to save for retirement or adopt healthier behaviors. Designed by Ideo Boston, the Gray Mirror is a concept that allows younger folks to see themselves fast-forwarded, displaying positive messages about aging and encouraging them to make healthy choices while they still can.  (Ideo.com)

WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET YOUR ATTENTION…TAKE CARE OF YOU! 

Your health IS my business. Let’s do wellness together, for the health of it!

 

Life is Like A Box of Chocolates…

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I figured the picture quote above would get your attention. Laugh often…it’s good for your well-being.

Remember the movie “Forrest Gump”? The movie depicts numerous stories of triumph during Forrest’s challenging life. One of the famous lines from the movie was, “Life is like a box of chocolates…you never know what your gonna get.” It’s a simple but profound statement.

There is no doubt we all will have times in our life when we anticipate one thing and are dealt another. Our acceptance and adaption to change and challenges is what will later define us. The past can control and cripple or inspire and empower. You control whether the challenges are stepping stones or road blocks.

I am the youngest of ten children, six boys and four girls. Growing up, I was a tomboy, always wanting to play sports with my brothers and their friends. It wasn’t uncommon to hear comments like, “you’re too little, you’re a girl, you’re too young”. Well, that just fired me up more and made me more determined to show them my SPUNK. My childhood lessons provided me the solid foundation to achieve my goals in life. In my twenties I moved out to California and became a professional athlete, coach at Stanford University and I have always enjoyed being a business entrepreneur. I love a challenge!

After my divorce, I moved back to the mid-west and became a 24/7 single parent for the past fifteen years. The life lessons I learned in my youth continued to serve me well. My SPUNK, determination, commitment and a positive attitude are core elements to achievement. I’m confident that anyone who embraces those elements will achieve their dreams and goals. Success depends on the SECOND letter…”u”.

As a Wellness Coach, I combined all my life time experiences into a proven successful pathway for others to follow in order to improve their Quality of Life. Take my TCOY 90 Day Challenge and let’s do wellness together. Anyone who has achieved anything of true value knows it takes time and commitment.

People ask if I experienced days when I didn’t want to train and workout. Absolutely! However, my personal commitment to my goals are my driving force to push through the “I don’t feel like it” and continue to take action. Life is not about perfection but doing and giving your best effort. One or two days off can easily turn into weeks, months or years.

If you don’t like starting over, stop quitting.

In the book, The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson, Olson states, “Simple Disciplines or Errors in Judgment over time matter. Easy to do…Easy not to do.” The simple fact is our daily choices become habits and those habits become our lifestyle. This is true whether you are referencing health, relationships or finances. Total Wellness is about balance in all three areas.

We have become a “microwave society” wanting immediate gratification, results and fixes. The problems with that mentality is health, relationships and finances don’t happen over-night; they need your attention and time.

Stop listening to the marketing hype for “cheaper and faster” and start talking to ourselves with empowering statements such as “I choose to be active and eat fuel that energize my body”.

What are three things you value the most in your life? Is your current lifestyle supporting time and energy with the things you value? For example, if you indicated family, how much energy do you give to these relationship daily? If change is necessary, take action and give your energy into your relationships. Cultivate what you want to grow!

Embrace life like a box of chocolates…it’s a sweet journey.

TCOY = Take Care of You

Coach Lucy

 
*Springtime is a great reminder to: PLANT, CULTIVATE and REAP. 
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What Do Tough Times Say About You?

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Sharing a blog post that I’m sure many can benefit from reading.  TCOY!  Coach Lucy

 

What Do Tough Times Say About You? 

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It’s one thing to have a bad day yet quite another to fall on tough times. These are the days when it’s hard to get out of bed, not knowing how you’re going to make it through the day. These are the days when it feels like the world is crumbling around you and you’ve been hit by a two-by-four by the time you go to bed at night. Yet, these are the times that shape character and show what you’re made of. So what do tough times say about you?

Unfortunately, for most of us, there comes a time when we will experience a major setback. Whether we’re confronted by a personal tragedy, faced with a serious financial crisis, or struck by an uncontrollable event, these are the times that test our will and our spirit.

Everyone reacts to these situations differently. Some people get angry, feel sorry for themselves, and cast blame; other people remain calm, create an action plan to move forward, and look for a trace of blue in the dark skies ahead. The fact is, the way you respond to these situations in the short term can impact your long-term success and happiness. As George S. Patton said, “The test of success is not what you do when you are on top. Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom.”

Character Matters During Tough Times

Be Positive. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people.

Remain calm and levelheaded. Count to ten. Try to make decisions based on fact rather than emotion.

Accept support. There are wonderful people who care about you. Don’t shut them out, or worse, take your problem out on them. They’re trying to help.

Learn from the past. Have you faced a similar situation in the past? Apply lessons learned. There’s no need to reinvent the wheel.

Seek professional counsel. Identify someone to serve as a sounding board. Gain from their knowledge, experience, and objective viewpoint.

Face reality. Don’t run away from the problem; run toward it. Accept reality as it is, not as you want it to be.

Own the problem. Don’t waste precious time and energy making excuses or casting blame. Move forward rather than dwelling in the past.

Make tough choices. Don’t procrastinate or hold out for the perfect answer; there may not be one. Identify your options and create a plan of action. You’ll gain more from moving forward in a deliberate fashion than from running around like a chicken without a head.

Set priorities. Don’t treat every option or activity equally. It’s smarter to do the important things rather than to complete every item on your list.

Build momentum. Big problems are best solved in small pieces. Tackle short-term items to achieve wins while you address the root cause.

Remain true to your values. This is no time to compromise your integrity. Listen to your conscience. You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life.

Be loyal. Don’t throw anyone under the bus to save your hide. In fact, putting the needs of others first may supply the positive energy you need to move forward.

Find an outlet for relaxation. Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Identify ways to relax and reduce stress. That’ll help you complete the mission with your sanity intact.

Be a leader. These are the times when real leaders show their character. Lead by example. Be the first to “take a hit” before asking others to do the same.

Never quit. As Richard M. Nixon said, “A man is not finished when he’s defeated. He’s finished when he quits.”

Keep the faith. When nothing seems to work, faith often does.

Learn from the experience. Make sure to learn from the experience. You may have to apply this lesson another day. One thing this teaches us is that life is filled with “ups and downs,” so make the most of the “in-betweens.”

From Tough Times to Good Times

Believe in yourself. This too shall pass. This isn’t the first or the last time that you’re going to face tough times. If the situation is within your control, do something about it; if not, accept it for what it is and try to make the best of it. You survived the last time you faced a crisis, and you will this time as well. Remember, it’s not going to get better by sitting around. In fact, left unattended, small problems often become bigger ones.

It’s easy to look like a star when times are good, but when times are tough, your true character comes into full view. Be strong. Don’t compromise your integrity; don’t lower your standards; and above all, don’t quit. You’re better than that. You owe it to yourself to overcome the problem, as you have so many times before. There is great wisdom in Friedrich Nietzsche’s truism, “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” The key is to get through tough times with dignity and grace. So hold your head up high. No one ever said it’s easy. And for that, you’ll have more reason to be proud when it’s over. Tough times say a lot about us. Let’s hope that they say only good things about you!

Mindful vs. Mindless

The latest “buzz” word…MINDFULNESS.

As a former professional athlete, I learned the power of focus or “mindfulness” long ago.  In short, I may not have been the best athlete, but I was determined, focused and willing to do what others would not in order to achieve my dreams. 

The sport of racquetball is extremely fast paced and requires a player to develop laser like “mindfulness”.  Where else can you experience a ball flying around you at 100mph, ricocheting off multiple walls with as many as three other people in a small 20 x 20 x 40 area?  Priceless! 

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Many of these same principles are applied during my wellness and life coaching. I continually emphasis the power of focusing on one thing and utilize mindfulness and visualization in order to achieve the desired results.  Shut off the distractions and quiet the chatter.  Be aware. Be in the moment. Remember, we are human beings …”be”ings.  Recharge and know it’s good to just “be” sometimes.

Continuously overloading our mind and body creates an environment that is an incident or crisis waiting to happen. Add the fact that most people are sleep deprived and nutritionally challenged and it’s clear to see this is not a drug deficiency but a lifestyle issue.

Perhaps you read the January TIME magazine cover story: “The Mindful Revolution”.  Supported by studies and fact, businesses and the military are taking notice of the numerous benefits associated with being mindful. Within the article, the following “Mindfulness” numbers appeared:

  • 4 BILLION spent on related medical treatments
  • Nearly 1000 Certified Instructors
  • 477 Scientific Journal Articles in 2012

Another media post:  Harvard Business Review: Mindfulness in the Age of Complexity

Below are a few bullets highlighted in the HBR article:

  • Mindfulness is the process of actively noticing new things. When you do that, it puts you in the present. It makes you more sensitive to context and perspective. It’s the essence of engagement.
  • Better performance. It’s easier to pay attention. You remember more of what you’ve done. You’re more creative. You’re able to take advantage of opportunities when they present themselves. You avert the danger not yet arisen. You like people better, and people like you better, because you’re less evaluative. You’re more charismatic.
  • Imagine that your thoughts are totally transparent. If they were, you wouldn’t think awful things about other people. You’d find a way to understand their perspective.
  • Question the belief that you’re the only one who can do it, that there’s only one way to do it, and that the company will collapse if you don’t do it. When you open your views to be mindful, the stress just dissipates.

MY FAVORITE:

  • Life consists only of moments, nothing more than that. So if you make the moment matter, it all matters. You can be mindful, you can be mindless. You can win, you can lose. The worst case is to be mindless and lose. So when you’re doing anything, be mindful, notice new things, make it meaningful to you, and you’ll prosper.

Are you interested in learning how begin the process of TAKE CARE OF YOU?  If not now, when? Wellness is a behavior and I train on how to achieve it.  Utilize my three decades of coaching experience and a lifetime of living a wellness lifestyle.  Rest assured, my passion and purpose to empower you with my TCOY philosophy and lifestyle is life changing.  However, ACTION IS REQUIRED!

TCOY Wellness is Total Well Being…mind, heart and body.  If you don’t take care of your body, where will you live?

Contact me at:  913-709-6059

Coach Lucy is in!

Educate vs. Entitlement

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One young man went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the initial interview, and now would meet the director for the final interview.

The director discovered from his CV that the youth’s academic achievements were excellent. He asked, “Did you obtain any scholarships in school?” the youth answered “no”.

” Was it your father who paid for your school fees?”

“My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.” he replied.

” Where did your mother work?”

“My mother worked as clothes cleaner.”

The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

” Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?”

“Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Besides, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, “I have a request. When you go home today, go and clean your mother’s hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back home, he asked his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to her son.

The youth cleaned his mother’s hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother winced when he touched it.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fees. The bruises in the mother’s hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his education, his school activities and his future.

After cleaning his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth’s eyes, when he asked: “Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?”

The youth answered,” I cleaned my mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes’

“I know now what appreciation is. Without my mother, I would not be who I am today. By helping my mother, only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done on your own. And I have come to appreciate the importance and value of helping one’s family.

The director said, “This is what I am looking for in a manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life.”

“You are hired.”

This young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and worked as a team. The company’s performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop an “entitlement mentality” and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent’s efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, they may be successful for a while, but eventually they would not feel a sense of achievement. They will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying our children instead?

You can let your child live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch on a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your child learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.

Try to forward this story to as many as possible…this may change somebody’s fate.

Strike up a conversation…

We can live on the same road for decades and never learn the names of those we share a street address with. We can use the same corner shop every time we buy a newspaper or coffee and still have no idea about the person selling it to us.

TCOY Challenge:  I invite you to become aware: to look up, look around and really notice those you come into contact with. Strike up a conversation in the process, and learn their name. It’ll be important later on…

 
As I see it, there are no strangers, simply folks I have not yet spoke with.  Use Toby Mac’s song “SPEAK LIFE” as an inspiration!
 

Neighborhoods are changing; people connect less and look to the floor more. People are lost in their iPods, news streams, Twitter and Facebook. Throughout the day I see people waiting in lines and they don’t speak, smile or connect. There is no need – they can connect virtually with people around the world and never connect with their neighbor with whom they stand shoulder to shoulder.

 
Be the change you want to see in this world.  A smile or kind word costs nothing but could be the ray of sunshine that makes another person’s day a little better.  We all have challenges and yet when we look up and outside ourselves, opportunities are presented to be the light in a dark world. 
 
Choose to be the light and bring joy into the day…for it is in giving that we receive.   Coach Lucy

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