The Echo of Giving

I wanted to share a wonderful post from Mary Lucas. Mary is from a LARGE family too. We met a few years back via a mutual friend who connected us up. Many of our stories are similar and I enjoy hearing her speak and loved her book. Check out her website and I’d recommend getting her book, for yourself and it’s a great gift (I’ve given many away; there are many great life lessons and stories from her father!).

I’ve been coaching for over thirty years and a speaker for over decade. Each experience is a building block and opportunity to reach another person and my personal desire is to leave this world a better place than if I had not been here. Without a doubt, I’ve been blessed when people have come up to me after my speech or presentation and indicated they were touched by my words and stories.

Even when you don’t think others are watching or listening, you’re just going through the day to day in your life, people are watching. What message are you portraying by your actions?

The best advice I can give is: Live your day as if it were the last; one day it will be but in the meantime, think of all the good that can come with a positive attitude. Give freely and often and you will experience the overflow of peace, joy and love in your life.

We don’t remember days, we remember MOMENTS. To the world you may be one person but to one person, you might be the world. Have an awesome week and remember to TCOY!!!


Sunday, June 19, 2011
The Echo of Giving

Happy Father’s Day to all…..Moms, Kids, Uncles, Aunts Included!

"Because I have given, I have received so very much in return."
– My Father the Butcher, John Bichelmeyer
(1916 – 2004)

That quote is a favorite of mine, and it’s given me some food for thought lately. In fact, I heard this same sentiment expressed just this week by one of Kansas City’s most respected businessmen and philanthropists, Barnett Helzberg. When asked what his life’s greatest joy is, he didn’t hesitate to respond:

"The joy of giving back to others."

Before you read further, friends, take note: This is not a message on the importance of giving. Instead, I want you to consider the impact of giving, or what I call the "echo of giving."


Here’s what I mean: I gave a speech a few years back following the publication of my book, Lunchmeat & Life Lessons: Sharing a Butcher’s Wisdom. It wasn’t my best presentation and I knew it. Worse, I knew the audience agreed with my assessment. I left the stage and my confidence fell through the floor. Why wasn’t I more prepared? Why hadn’t I projected more emotion? Why didn’t I connect with my audience?

A moment later, a man came up to me and took both my hands in his. Who was this person? His presence startled me as I was lost in my own thoughts. I’ll never forget his words:

"I don’t know what you said or what your message was as you spoke to our group," he began. "I didn’t hear a word of it. All I know is that you stood in front of us and told us you were going to share some wisdom from the greatest man you ever knew: Your father."

I could see where this was going…….he was ready to clobber me for my ineffective keynote address. Here it comes, I thought!

But wait. No, that wasn’t it at all. The stranger continued, looking me straight in the eyes:

"You see," he continued, "I’m a new father. I left my six week old baby girl for the first time this week so that I could come to this convention and all I could think of as you spoke for the last hour is how can I be the kind of father to my daughter that your father was to you? How can I create that love, loyalty and lasting impact in her life? Thank you for inspiring me to be the best father I can be."

I couldn’t speak for a moment. I simply held his hands tighter.

He walked away and I knew that something incredible had happened. It didn’t matter that I thought I had delivered a poor presentation. My words had connected with someone in a powerful way. I had given of myself — and he had received.

So what about the echo of that giving? Undoubtedly that businessman went home with a new way of thinking. A changed direction in being a father to that new baby girl. A re-organized list of life’s priorities. And I bet that echo resonates on to this very day. In turn, he gave of himself to another person who received and embraced that simple gift.

On and on it goes. The circle of life. The echo of giving. Remember my own father’s words as you give of yourself to others……you receive so very much in return. I know I did that day.

Finally, to that gracious new dad who touched both my hands and my heart back in 2006, I wish you a very special Father’s Day 2011.

All the best!

Mary B. Lucas

Office: 913-671-7974
Cell: 913-269-8222

Email: Mary


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