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Self Doubt

Truth be told, we all have times we doubt ourselves and abilities. It doesn’t matter if you’re famous or not, this is something each and everyone of us have dealt with and much of it comes from our self-talk which is a learned behavior. Granted our surroundings, including our society, peers and family, impact us. However, we ultimatley have to manage our mind and thoughts.

Let’s look at a toddler learning to walk. It’s almost as if failure isn’t an option in their world. They are determined and will fall a thousand times in their efforts to master walking. As we watch, we cheer on these efforts, over and over again. Wow, let’s bottle that support and magic for adults!

Soon come the TEEN years. Oh yes, we all remember them and the awkwardness of it all. How some kids make fun of others only to make themselves feel and look better. Through their own insecurities, they throw out hurtful words which can paralyze others simply due to fear or embarrassment. In reality, if you want to show your strength and abilities, why not encourage others rather than belittling them. Words impact us; however, we need to learn that we can let them stick or not. They only have an impact if we allow them to.

I remember reading a story about a young boy who was upset because someone called him “stupid”. The father was quick to reply, “You’re a car?” And he said “no, I’m not.” To which his father kept calling him “a car”. The son looked at him like he was crazy and repeated, “I’m not a ‘car’ are you nuts or something?” The father smiled and said, “no you’re not a car nor are you stupid!” The boy learned that just because someone says something, doesn’t mean you have to value what they said.

In 1954, Roger Bannister, a 24 year old medical student from Oxford, changed the world of running when he broke the 4-minute mile. History unfolds in this clip. He admits that it was more psychological than physical…self-doubt had to be squashed. From that day forward, records continue to be broken.

I absolutely LOVE the book & movie ‘The Peaceful Warrior’. These movie clips are inspirational and I encourage you to view them because the lessons learned from them will leave an impression on you:

given during recovery and as he crushes self-doubt.

The best advice I can give to others in this area is to use what has worked for me. Whenever that voice of self-doubt starts talking, as it will, quickly respond back with “I can do this!” or simply say to yourself: “WHY NOT ME!” Work on the positive self-talk, eliminating the negative. Your mind only knows what you tell it. What are you telling yourself? Remember the toddler I mentioned earlier? The toddler focused only on the positive…walking and would continue until the task was mastered. Falling wasn’t failure, it was merely part of the process and journey.

Indulge in one more powerful reference that shows how YOU control your talent and destiny. The movie is ““…in this clip, the golfer is haunted with self-doubt from years past – this is PRICELESS. Is there something in your life that is haunting and holding you back? Let it go.

Whether it be in sports, relationships, finances, health or your career, it all comes down to your perception. Stay strong in your faith, Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Be Strong & Be Well

Until next month . . . TCOY!


Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain — and most fools do. Carnegie, Dale



Black Bean Soup

1 1/2 C Beef Broth (no or low sodium)
1 1/2 C Water
1 Small Onion, Chopped
3 Cans Black Beans
1 C Salsa (or more!)
1 t Cumin

Directions: Before beginning, drain and rinse two of the cans of black beans and set aside. Using a potato masher, mash up the remaining can of beans with the juice. Add the salsa and cumin to the mashed beans and set aside. In your pot, combine the broth, water and onion, and bring to a boil. Simmer till onions are tender. Add the rinsed and mashed beans and stir well. Simmer at a low heat for half an hour or so.

Comments on: "Newsletter: Self Doubt (Oct 09)" (1)

  1. Great post! That’s one of my favorite scenes from Bagger Vance, too.

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