TCOY Wellness

My life’s personal journey and career experiences as a former professional athlete and coach (30+ years) have taught me a lot about the human body, commitment, choices and discipline.  LIVING WELL

Coaches, teachers, and mentors provide  insight and guidance through knowledge and expertise.  Think back to someone who has blessed you as a mentor.  With decades of experience of living the TCOY (take care of you) lifestyle, my clients are empowered and endorse my coaching due to the outcome based results.  LinkedIn profile    Inspiring Well-Being

My TCOY philosophy is to focus on total well-being:  Mind, Heart, and Body.  Simple disciplines or errors in judgment over time will reveal themselves in life.   Where you spend you time, energy, and money reveals your priorities.  As a coach, we work together and I challenge you to take inventory and make the changes as needed.  The bond between a coach and client is one of respect and commitment.

Are you taking care of everyone but you? A valuable lesson people need to be reminded of is:  “take care of you”; thus “TCOY”.  We can be of little help to ourselves or others if our personal health fails.

Someday is another word for procrastination.  In regards to your well-being, the sooner you begin to take care of your body, the better off you will be. If not now, when? When you create a mindset for wellness, your lifestyle changes and your Quality of Life improves. Every human being is the author of his own health or disease.  What pathway are you choosing? All things are possible!

Are you overwhelmed by demands on your time, choices to make and simply do nothing. WARNING:  choosing to do nothing is a choice too. Avoidance is not a solution nor the answer when it comes to your health and it can cost you your life!

Change your thinking ~ change your life.  Focus on what you want in your life and take action to receive it. Neither wellness nor sickness occur over night, they are a result of choices over time.  Your daily choices become habits; those habits can be a blessing or curse as time passes.  ACTION REQUIRED – Your health is my business!  Start creating a better YOU from this day forward.

Some excuses that can cost you your life:

*I just can’t change.
*I feel pretty good right now.
*I don’t have the time or energy.
*I am not sick, so I’m healthy.  Right?
*I can’t afford it, my budgets too tight.
*I have more important things to think about and do.
*I get confused and overwhelmed about where to begin.

I welcome the opportunity to provide guidance for sustainable wellness and more joy in life.   If you don’t take care of your body, where will you live?  

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Be Well, Be Strong… and always remember to:   TCOY = Take Care of You!

Coach Lucy

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You Don’t Have To Be Sick To Get Better!

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Laughter is the best RX

Don’t take yourself or life too seriously…it stresses you out and ages you!

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The Art of Connecting

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Have you ever notice how well kids and animals connect without words?

Today’s society has more ways to communicate than any other time in history but the question is, are you truly connecting or just sharing information and wanting to talk?

Communicate: to give information about (something) to someone by speaking, writing, moving your hands, etc.

Connect:  bring together or into contact so that a real or notional link is established.

The ability to hold a natural conversation is key to success in the professional world. Knowing when to initiate a discussion, keeping it interesting by asking effective questions, sharing your own stories and ending dialogue with kindness is an art.

I see life this way, there are no strangers, only people you haven’t met yet.  If I’m standing in line or see someone sitting on a bench, the odds are pretty good I will acknowledge them with at least a smile and perhaps start a conversation.  I’ve met some very good friends by such an encounter.

Is this outside of your comfort zone?  Learn how to create connections in conversations by following these seven steps – Excerpt Success.com article:

1. Exude confidence. When you’re comfortable in your own skin, you make others comfortable. If you take the attitude that you bring something to the table, you will see that attitude reflected in others. Remember: Attitudes are worth catching make yours infectious by being full of enthusiasm

2. Show up with something to say. Always be on the lookout for material to start up a conversation.

3. Begin with a question. Besides showing interest in someone, one simple question can start an entire conversation. Asking something a bit unusual sets you apart from the crowd. Rather than, “What do you do?” ask, “How do you enjoy spending your weekends?”

4. Find common ground. The surest way to build rapport is to find something you have in common and build on that interest. Don’t shy away from topics that have nothing to do with business. They often create the perfect connection.

5. Focus on others. Putting your energy and interest in another person marks you as a great conversationalist.  Keep that back and forth volley going with conversation.

6. Be inclusive. Excluding others in the group is a conversation killer. Make eye contact with everyone in the group, not just the person who asked you a direct question.

7. Close a conversation with class. When a conversation naturally lulls, take advantage and say, “It’s been a pleasure talking with you. I hope our paths cross again soon.” Before leaving, be sure to thank the hosts.

TCOY CHALLENGE – Incorporate these seven ACTION STEPS into your daily routine.  You’ll be amazed at the results!

Be Well and remember to ~  Take Care of You!
Coach Lucy
Consultation 3

2 year old understands life

Life is simple…we complicate it!

Breathe. Take time each and every day to appreciate your blessings.  There is ALWAYS someone worse off.  The tyranny of urgency in our society needs to be address.  The desire for bigger, faster, newer leaves an on-going struggle for more … when is enough, enough?

Are you so busy DOING that you neglect to BE?  Are you so busy making a living that you neglect to have a life?  If you have children, what lessons are they learning from your lifestyle?  Do you need to disconnect from technology and the “rat race”?

Summertime is an excellent time to get outdoors and experience nature and all it’s beauty.  Take a walk. Talk to your neighbors. Look up at the clouds and daydream.  A few moments of serenity can bring balance and joy to your life.

NICKELBACK song “If today was your last day”  is one of my favorites.  Listen to the lyrics, they’re POWERFUL!

TCOY!

Coach Lucy

*A Gift You Give Yourself : 4 week TCOY Experience Coaching Session*

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*27 LIfe Changing Lessons – excerpt

1. The present moment is the most precious thing there is.

“People don’t realize that now is all there ever is; there is no past or future except as memory or anticipation in your mind.” 

“…the past gives you an identity and the future holds the promise of salvation, of fulfillment in whatever form. Both are illusions.”

“Time isn’t precious at all, because it is an illusion. What you perceive as precious is not time but the one point that is out of time: the Now. That is precious indeed. The more you are focused on time—past and future—the more you miss the Now, the most precious thing there is.”

“Don’t let a mad world tell you that success is anything other than a successful present moment.”

“Most humans are never fully present in the now, because unconsciously they believe that the next moment must be more important than this one. But then you miss your whole life, which is never not now.”

“As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love – even the most simple action.”

2. Wherever you are, be there totally.

“Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally. If you want to take responsibility for your life, you must choose one of those three options, and you must choose now. Then accept the consequences.”

3. Always say “yes” to the present moment.

“Acceptance looks like a passive state, but in reality it brings something entirely new into this world. That peace, a subtle energy vibration, is consciousness.”

“Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.”

“Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? what could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.”

4. Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness.

“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.”

5. Don’t take life so seriously.

“Life isn’t as serious as the mind makes it out to be.”

6. Love is not to be found outside of you.

“Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you.”

7. The more you dwell on the negative, the more obsessed with negative things your mind becomes.

“People tend to dwell more on negative things than on good things. So the mind then becomes obsessed with negative things, with judgments, guilt and anxiety produced by thoughts about the future and so on.”

8. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. 

“To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.”

9. There is a fine balance between honoring the past and losing yourself in it.

“There is a fine balance between honoring the past and losing yourself in it. For example, you can acknowledge and learn from mistakes you made, and then move on and refocus on the now. It is called forgiving yourself.”

10. Letting go requires strength and a lot of courage.

“Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.”

“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

11. You are a Human Being not a human doing.

“In today’s rush we all think too much, seek too much, want too much and forget about the joy of just Being.”

12. Give up defining yourself and others.

“Defining yourself through thought is limiting yourself.” 

“Give up defining yourself – to yourself or to others. You won’t die. You will come to life. And don’t be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it’s their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don’t be there primarily as a function or a role, but as the field of conscious Presence. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.”

“Once you have identified with some form of negativity, you do not want to let it go, and on a deeply unconscious level, you do not want positive change. It would threaten your identity as a depressed, angry or hard-done by person. You will then ignore, deny or sabotage the positive in your life. This is a common phenomenon. It is also insane.”

13. You are more than your mind.

“On a deeper level you are already complete. When you realize that, there is a joyous energy behind what you do.”

“To be identified with your mind is to be trapped in time: the compulsion to live almost exclusively through memory and anticipation.”

“To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment.”

“Boredom, anger, sadness, or fear are not ‘yours,’ not personal. They are conditions of the human mind. They come and go. Nothing that comes and goes is you.”

“The beginning of freedom is the realization that you are not “the thinker.” The moment you start watching the thinker, a higher level of consciousness becomes activated. You then begin to realize that there is a vast realm of intelligence beyond thought, that thought is only a tiny aspect of that intelligence. You also realize that all the things that truly matter – beauty, love, creativity, joy, inner peace – arise from beyond the mind. You begin to awaken.”

14. Where there is true love, there is no ego.

“A genuine relationship is one that is not dominated by the ego with its image-making and self-seeking. In a genuine relationship, there is an outward flow of open, alert attention toward the other person in which there is no wanting whatsoever.”

15. Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.

“To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. This state is then no longer dependent upon things being in a certain way, good or bad. It seems almost paradoxical, yet when your inner dependency on form is gone, the general conditions of your life, the outer forms, tend to improve greatly. Things, people, or conditions that you thought you needed for your happiness now come to you with no struggle or effort on your part, and you are free to enjoy and appreciate them – while they last. All those things, of course, will still pass away, cycles will come and go, but with dependency gone there is no fear of loss anymore. Life flows with ease.”

“What you react to in others, you strengthen in yourself.”

“Anything that you resent and strongly react to in another is also in you.”

“Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.”

16. Power over others is weakness disguised as strength.

“Power over others is weakness disguised as strength.True power if within, and it is available to you now.”

17. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain.

“Every addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through your own pain. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. Whatever the substance you are addicted to – alcohol, food, legal or illegal drugs, or a person – you are using something or somebody to cover up your pain.”

18. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the “love” of ego.

“Love is not selective, just as the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the “love” of ego. However, the intensity with which true love is felt can vary. There may be one person who reflects your love back to you more clearly and more intensely than others, and if that person feels the same toward you, it can be said that you are in a love relationship with him or her. The bond that connects you with that person is the same bond that connects you with the person sitting next to you on a bus, or with a bird, a tree, a flower. Only the degree of intensity with which it is felt differs.”

19. Seek to live authentically.

“Authentic human interactions become impossible when you lose yourself in a role.”

“Living up to an image that you have of yourself or that other people have of you is inauthentic living.”

20. We don’t “see” God as He is, we see God as we are.

“Man made God in his own image…”

21. Seeking is the antithesis of happiness.

“Don’t Seek Happiness. If you seek it, you won’t find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness.”

“Is there a difference between happiness and inner peace? Yes. Happiness depends on conditions being perceived as positive; inner peace does not.”

22. What you give is what you get.

“For what you do to others, you do to yourself.”

23. Any action is often better than no action.

“Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long time. If it is a mistake, at least you learn something, in which case it’s no longer a mistake. If you remain stuck, you learn nothing.”

24. If you make the fountain pure, all will be pure.

“If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place. Primary reality is within; secondary reality without.”

25. The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly — you usually don’t use it at all. It uses you. This is the disease. You believe that you are your mind. This is the delusion. The instrument has taken you over.”

26. Worry is a waste of time.

“Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.”

27. If the structures of the human mind remain unchanged, we will always end up re-creating the same world.

“Humanity is now faced with a stark choice: Evolve or die. … If the structures of the human mind remain unchanged, we will always end up re-creating the same world, the same evils, the same dysfunction.”

Newsflash – You can’t! 

People don’t want to be changed. And we can’t force them to change. This causes no end of frustration, for us and the person who we’re trying to change.

Don’t lose heart, good news is, we can change how we view them and how we react.  Wisdom doesn’t have to be for the old…learn to do this at an early age and you’ll reap a more joyful and healthier life!

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What we can change, instead:

  1. Our responses to their actions. If someone is being frustrating, we can instead find something to be grateful for about them. We can see their virtues instead of their faults. We can change our expectations of them, and instead accept them for the beautiful person they are.
  2. Our intention for them. Instead of wanting them to change, we can offer guidance in the spirit of helping, but not expect them to accept that guidance. We can show them a way that might be helpful, but not demand they follow that way.
  3. Our example for them. If someone gets angry all the time (and you don’t like that), instead of getting angry back, be the example. How should they deal with frustrations if not through anger? Show them. Be calm. Be loving and gentle and compassionate.
  4. Ourselves. Try changing yourself, and see how easy that is. It’s actually pretty hard. Try changing your diet, or your responses to people. It’s doable, but far from easy. If it’s not easy for you to change, why should we expect everyone else to change, and get frustrated when they don’t? Why should everyone else but you change? Why not change to adapt to the reality of the world around you, instead of expecting the world to bend to your desires?

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HUMMUS DELIGHT

This recipe sound delightful and I’ll be making it soon!

Avocado Hummus

Ingredients

  • 1 (15 oz) can chick peas, well drained
  • 2 medium ripe avocados, cored and peeled (13 oz before cored and peeled)
  • 3 Tbsp olive oil, plus more for serving if desired
  • 1 1/2 Tbsp tahini
  • 3 Tbsp fresh lime juice
  • 1 clove garlic, peeled
  • Salt and freshly ground black pepper
  • 1/8 tsp cumin
  • 1 – 2 Tbsp finely chopped cilantro leaves, for topping
  • Red pepper flakes, for topping
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Directions

  • Pulse chick peas, olive oil, tahini, lime juice, and garlic in a food processor until smooth, about 2 minutes. Season with salt and pepper to taste (I did a scant 1/2 tsp salt and about 1/8 tsp pepper), add cumin and avocados and pulse mixture until smooth and creamy, about 1 – 2 minutes longer.

Serve topped with more olive oil if desired and sprinkle with cilantro and red pepper flakes. Serve with pita chips or tortilla chips.

Is Chia Seed the New Flaxseed?

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Perhaps best known as the source of “fur” on novelty planters called Chia Pets, chia is the highly nutritious seed of a desert plant called Salvia hispanica. An important part of the diet of ancient Aztecs and Mayans, chia seed is rich in omega-3 fatty acids, as well as vital minerals including calcium, phosphorus and magnesium. It has a nutty flavor – sprinkle seeds whole or ground on cereal, in yogurt or on salads, or grind and mix them with flour when baking. Chia is undergoing a well-deserved renaissance, and is widely available in online and in natural food stores. Seek out organic versions and experiment – you’ll likely find it a tasty addition to your diet!

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Having trouble reading the poster?  Here’s the LINK to Frank’s Post.  Good stuff!

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